Damned if you Do, Damned if you Don't

So, I have enough experience with the whole thing to be able to postulate that it doesn't matter anymore if you sleep with a guy on the first outting/too early or if you don't. It is officially, I believe, the same result. No more rules, no more whatever. I have girlfriends who sleep with men they like too quickly and never hear from the guy again-or hear from them weeks later with a "hey, like, what's up?" However, I haven't slept with a boy in a very long time. I have, however, kissed some boys lately. And I've learned something: the ones that were not going to call you because you slept with them too soon-yeah, they were never going to call you anyway. They aren't going to call you if you wait, either. Because then it's too much effort, or then it means something. One or the other. I haven't figured this part out yet. I'm more liable to go with the too much effort box.
I've hung out with these guys who were interested in me, called me a bit, we went out, made out and then...POOF! Like the freakin' fairy godmother. Gone.

I would love to know what's going on inside their heads and how they come to these decisions. But, I have this feeling that we'd all be super disappointed if we knew. Like, that they wouldn't be thinkng anything. They'd just be like, "don't like her enough. Too much effort." Or even worse, they don't call again because you did something utterly human, like laughed funny or too much, or your toes weren't done that particular week or something. I mean, I've dropped guys for less, I must say. If mrn are bad spellers, I'm totally out of there. Which is the only upside of meeting men online. They have to immediately spell for you.